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This is a discussion forum where we will be discussing a wide range of topics once a month to start. Often we have the same hopes, dreams, doubts and fears as others and this is a way for us share in a casual relaxed atmosphere. These forums are private and no logs will be posted. These forums are also not meant to allow bashing of another. They are meant as a way to bring us closer together. This is an IRC wide forum and all submissives are welcomed. Due to the nature of this forum no dominants are welcomed at this time.

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Upcoming Dates and Topics
"Sister Subbies "

We either love or hate this phrase. While BDSM is unique to each of us, do we have things in common that set us aside from other women? Do we naturally form a close bond and a willingness to help, or are we just here selfishly to get what we can get without a care of another submissives feelings?

Speakers: Open Forum
Where: #submission_discuss
When: Wednesday day August 7th 7PM PT/10PM ET
Servers of choice: irc.lightning.net - irc.prison.net
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Please join us for our continuing series of discussions; future topics include:

"Negotiation and Re-negotiation" -
How to negotiate first time scenes. A BDSM relationship itself should also be discussed in terms of kinks before entering. We will be taking a look at a "Play Partner Checklist" and how to use it for new relationships. And for the more established, what happens when one party wants the relationship to change? From occasional to 24/7? Other person/s involved? An escalation of intensity?

"Limits, boundaries, safewords, safe calls, safety nets...common sense" -
We will be discussing the importance of each of these safety measures. Understanding the differences between limits and boundaries, and being sure the Dom knows them too. And we will be talking of the reasons why none will work if you do not apply your own common sense in any situation.

"IRC and BDSM" - Can and are these type relationships *real*, are they to be treated a *tool* for real life, or are they *play* and not meant to be taken seriously. Keeping irc/phone relationships fresh between r/l meetings (or as an alternative to r/l). Join us in discussing how each of us makes our relationships on the net work.

"Polyamory" - True to the word it ideally should be a circle of love between mulitple committed lovers/partners. But is this the way of polyamorous relationships in reality? How do you make yours work? Why can't you be a part of one? Should this need in a dominant be discussed before you enter a relationship to avoid "I would like you to meet your new 'sister'."

"Ending It Gracefully" - How to work through the end of a D/s (or other) relationship with dignity, no matter who initiated the split. Protecting your privacy and rights (thinking of things like having intimate photos meant only for him suddenly splashed across alt.binaries.erotica.bondage.amateur groups) if a relationship turns sour - before it goes bad. Being civil to mutual friends, and to new people the Dom/me may be involved with.

"Humiliation" - What is it, how is it different from embarrassment. What motivates the Dom, and the sub? What are the necessary ingredients of a humiliation scene or series of events that leave a sub feeling good about herself, rather than belittled and unvalued?

"Living 24/7.. or Even 24/2" - How are family/job/kids accommodated? Does the Dom make every decision? Does the sub make decisions on her own, but motivated by what she believes/knows the Dom would want? What are the factors that both parties need to consider before embarking on a full-time relationship?

"Sister Subbies" - We either love or hate this phrase. While BDSM is unique to each of us, do we have things in common that set us aside from other women? Do we naturally form a close bond and a willingness to help, or are we just here selfishly to get what we can get without a care of another submissives feelings?

"Advice, good and bad" - Come prepared to share the best advice you've ever received (or given) about D/s, and the worst advice you've heard - and how such good/bad advice affected them.

"Bottom, submissive or slave" - Discussion of the classical meanings, and where we feel we fit in.

"Just for laughs" - Favourite toys, props, techniques. Things subs do to/for their Doms/mes that drive them wild. Ideas from your own experience to introduce to other subs to try.

"Brat vs Doormat" - Assuming there are no words in between and neither of these terms derogatory, which are you? What makes you feel this way?

"A subs-only View of Gor" - Just talk, without the posturing. no furs, no services... This is a forum where Gorean slaves can talk about how it's different for them from more mainstream D/s, and why they prefer it/enjoy it. And a forum where we can learn.

"Recognizing a 'real' Dom" -Without getting into the definition of what's 'real' in the sense that we've seen before, that a 'real' Dom wouldn't do something or other. But, frankly, someone who hangs around a while, and reads a bit could fake it fairly convincingly if he had any imagination at all. So, how does a sub decide if he's got the vital stuff one wants/needs in a Dom, or just a clever, horny guy who's found a motherlode of women who like sex?
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