Guidelines For a Safety Net

These guidlines are written by pleasure(at)netcom(dot)com " THE SAFETY NET PROJECT VOLUNTEER FOR SAFER PLAY IN YOUR COMMUNITY". The advice here is excellent, whether you build your own safety net or have the need for a community one. If you need a safety net, would like to volunteer for a safety net, or have questions, please write to: KttN

Written by pleasure(at)netcom(dot)com

************WHO SHOULD USE THE SAFETY NET?************

If you make a "blind play date" with someone you have never met before and are not totally sure you can trust, please take precautions. USING THIS PROGRAM IS NOT A TOTAL GUARANTEE OF YOUR SAFETY; IT IS MERELY AN ADDITIONAL PRECAUTION. PLEASE USE COMMON SENSE WHEN MEETING PEOPLE YOU DO NOT KNOW.

This includes visits to professional dominatrixes or sex workers whose reputations you are uncertain of, as well as private play partners and some party groups which you are unsure of your safety in. It is a good idea to establish a phone check-in with a volunteer to whom you are willing to give your personal information and to tell what to do in case of an emergency.

**************HOW TO USE THE SAFETY NET**************

Preferably before you make a "blind play date" with someone, check in with your Safety Net contact (by default, pleasure(at) for a time you can be "covered". Please have consideration and patience; this is a free service and entirely volunteer-run, and available times for coverage may vary. **People who have put in a turn of service covering for someone else will recieve priority for coverage times.** Please have all your responses ready to minimize the time the volunteer must spend on the phone with you.

While the initial contact and information exchange must be made by voice phone, a default mode of check-in such as via a telnet site or IRC may be established. Email is not recommended for check-in due to the possibility of time delay, and a voice check-in should be an option in case one or both parties have their Net access interrupted.

1. You will be asked to accept a call back, either collect if long distance or direct, to verify your identity and to help prevent possible abuse of The Safety Net. This verification may be repeated (discreetly) at a random future time during daylight hours, to make sure that a pay phone was not used for false verification purposes. You will also be asked to give your address, or the address of the place you will be playing in, in case there is an emergency and the police or a friend needs to be called to that location.

2. You will be asked for three code phrases, which you should write down previous to your call. Phrase #1 means "All is OK.". Phrase #2 means "I don't feel good about this; please help get me out of this situation by calling a local friend or neighbor to drop in, or make me an excuse over the phone." Phrase #3 means, "I am in trouble, call the police NOW."

These code words should be fairly casual and workable into a simple conversation, such as A-OK (it really is OK), Fine and dandy here (get me out of this with an excuse) and Everything's swell (call the cops NOW).

**Please write down your code words and put them in an inconspicuous place, in order to avoid embarrassment if you forget them.** If you forget, your volunteer will ask you over the phone which of the pre-arranged responses needs to happen, one by one. Simply say "yes" when your volunteer comes to the response that you want to happen.

3. You will be asked what the default action is in case no phone call comes in within 15 minutes of the appointed time, and in case the phone at your designated play space is not answered when you are checked up on, or if no code word at all is used in the call. Is it to call the police? A neighbor? A friend? You decide before you call. Set a specific time for your check-in, and make sure you have time zones synchronized if your volunteer partner is a long distance one.

4. For emergency purposes, you will be asked to supply the local police emergency phone for your area. I know that nobody wants to think about the embarrassing situation it could turn into if the police do get called into your play scene, but please consider the alternatives, and provide this number. It won't be used unless the person on the other end of the line genuinely believes that there is a life-threatening emergency happening to you, or unless you say "yes" over the phone when the volunteer asks, "Do you want me to call the police now?".

5. Do NOT forget to check in with your Safety Net volunteer; the action you specified (call the police, call a neighbor, call a friend) *will* be taken if you forget to check in for some reason and cannot be reached by phone to verify with the code word that you are OK. This may cause you some embarrassment as well as being unneccessary if you are not in an emergency situation.

6. The Safety Net Project is merely an informal "neighborhood watch" program where volunteers can help each other. Although I am helping to coordinate efforts, there is no one person absolutely responsible for the success or failure of the project as a whole (that is up to each volunteer and hir partner), and nobody can be held liable if something goes wrong. Please do not use The Safety Net as your sole means of support or protection as there is no way that anyone can personally guarantee the reliability of a volunteer. We will do the best we can, and that is all we can do.

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