The Official Dictionary
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National Bondage Club Of America


B&D
Bondage and discipline (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)

BONDAGE
A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive." (Also known as B&D or Master/Slave)

CANING (see spanking)
A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.

DISCIPLINE
A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.

DOMINANT
The sexual partner in control of the willing submissive partner.

Submissive
Willing to receive bondage and or discipline (also known as Docile.)

LEATHER
A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments.

MASOCHISM
Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others. Also known as S&M

MASTER/SLAVE
Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
OR it can also mean SEX slave With out the Pain of BDSM
 

PASSIVE
Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive.

Submissive
Quiet, submissive non contributor, willing to receive corrective training. (Also known as Passive or Docile)

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Other words that might come in handy.

4-Some
Four people or more engaged in sex

AC/DC
Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; BI; Bisexual.

ADULT
A lot of people miss use this word.  Adult means person of consenting age. (NOT SEX)

American Culture
Man on top, the missionary position

ALL CULTURES
Person or couples who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)

ANAL
Anal intercourse; Greek; Greek Culture.

ARTS
Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures

Bestiality
Also known as Animal Training... Sexual intercourse with animals.
Not legal in the USA

BI
(see AC/DC)

BIZARRE
Unusual sexual desires; Way out

CAN ENTERTAIN
Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.

CAN TRAVEL
Advertiser will travel to your home to swing.

CHEATING
Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and consent.

CLEAN
Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.

CLOSED DOOR
(See CLOSED SWINGING)

CLOSED SWINGING
A sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partner of a marriage or other intimate relationship does not visually observe each other's swinging. The rooms are almost ways in the same house.

CLOSET SWINGER
A person who hides the he/she is a swinger.

COMMUNITY MEMBER
A person who believes that swinging is more than just recreational sex. But a natural way of life. A lifestyle.

Condom
Used for contraception and / or protection from sexually transmitted diseases (also known as rubbers

COUPLE/CPL
In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabiting), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.

CULTURE
Euphemism for Fetish, Arts

Cyber Sex
Sex talk via the internet

DILDO
An artificial penis usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.

DISCRETION
Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.

FETISH
Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non sexual objects, actions or non genital anatomy.

FLAGELLATION
Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.

FUN AND GAMES
Euphemism for sexual activity.

GAY
A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.

GROUP SEX
Swinging; Social sexual activity between three or more people.

HARD-CORE
A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.

HARD SWINGING
(See HARD CORE)

HEAD
Oral genital sexual activity; "Giving head"

HETEROSEXUAL
Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.

HOMOSEXUAL
Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)

HOST
Someone is in charge of a event, party or Private party.

LE SBIAN
A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women (see GAY)

Lifestyle Swingers
People who prefer to get to know someone before having sex. This may mean socializing at clubs, exchanging e-mails and chatting online, or going out dancing, dining or for drinks first. Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.

King Triad
One man and two women

MARITAL AIDS
Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.

NEWCOMERS or NEWBIES
New people in swinging; First timers

OFF PREMISE CLUBS
Aclub that dose not have a place of there own.  normally meeting a bar's or rent party halls at hotels.

OPEN SWINGING
A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room; (Western U S) swing party where participants socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party.

ORAL-GENITAL
(See CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, HEAD)

ORGY
Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; group sex.

PARTY
Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.

PARTY CLOTHES
Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-around and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.

PARTY HOUSE (Western US)
A non membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.

Pleasure Swinger
People who are into swinging for sex, no pretense for social or emotional interactions no directly related to sexual activity.

Queen Triad
One woman and Two Men

Recreational Swinger
A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion with no desire for emotional attachment

Restraint
Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactment's

Roman Culture
Group Sex, the party scene, orgies, etc.

SASE
Self addressed stamped envelope

Safe
Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate a man who has had a vasectomy.

Safe Sex
The use of condoms during intercourse or abstinence from certain sexual practices.

Single
A swinger without a partner, singles or married (also known as SGL)

Social
A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at the social but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.

Social Swing Club
A swing club generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regu lar schedule of on premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fee's, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the material status of the couple is rarely important.

Sodomy
Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite-sex or same-sex partner.

Soft - Swinging
A social, erotic swing party environment where sexual activity is common and available, but not required or assumed. Sometimes used to describe swapping up to, but not including intercourse.

STD
Sexually transmitted disease.

Straight
A person who is not interested in sex with same sex (also known as STR or STR8)

Swapping
An out-dated term meaning two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.

Swinging
An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple to couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners.

Swinging Lifestyle
Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.

Threesome
Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (Also known as Menage a' Trios or Triad)

Ticket
A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the man to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.

Transsexual (TS)
Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to the other through surgery and hormone treatments, one who desires gender conversion.

Transvestite (TV)
A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex, not necessarily homosexual.

Vasectomy
A surgical operation to artificially sterilize a male

Versatile
BI-Sexual - see AC/DC

Voyeurism
Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity.

Voyeur
A person who enjoys and is stimulated by watching others in sexual acts.



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