TEN COMMANDMENTS OF A LADY'S PLEASURE
by Dr. Susan Block

1. THOU SHALT PAY ATTENTION TO THE DETAILS OF HER DESIRE

Learn to find and touch her personal "pleasure points." Like pressure points that promote healing when touched, a lady's mental and physical pleasure points are erotic entryways into her "armor" that allow her to receive pleasure.

2. THOU SHALT STIMULATE HER SENSES

Looking good is never bad. But most ladies are more auditory than visual, so it's more vital that you say arousing things. It's also important that you smell and taste nice. Take showers before going to bed instead of after getting out. Eat lots of celery and cinnamon. Ladies are most sensitive to touch. Explore the sensual paradise of her body. Find her hottest spots. Pleasure her feet and give her toegasms!

3. THOU SHALT COMPLIMENT HER MEANINGFULLY AND OFTEN

Just because you've told her once doesn't mean you shouldn't tell her again--and again. The type of compliment depends on the lady. Worship her body, and she'll be more likely to want to share it with you. Respect her mind, and she'll give you the key to unlock her desires...

4. THOU SHALT ENCOURAGE HER TO SHOW AND TELL YOU HOW SHE LIKES TO BE TOUCHED

Reassure her that it's okay for her to tell you what turns her on. Don't be intimidated! Ask her to masturbate for you . Watch her carefully, not just for your own excitement, but to see how she likes to be touched.

5. THOU SHALT LISTEN TO HER

...and learn about who she is, what she's been through, what she needs and what she wants. If you listen, you'll discover the little girl inside your lady. Pleasure her, play with her, and she'll never grow old. Talk to her and, most of all, listen to her, and she'll never stop speaking to you.

6. THOU SHALT MAKE HER LAUGH

Laughter is a mental orgasm. Amuse your lady. Be a fool for love. Act like a bonobo chimpanzee. If you can make her laugh, you can win her heart and her genitals will soon follow.

7. THOU SHALT GIVE HER THINGS

Since the dawn of humanity, when prehistoric gentlemen gave the best chunks of meat to the ladies they desired, men have successfully seduced women with gifts. The kind of gift depends on the lady and on you--it could be emerald earrings, sexy lingerie, a flower from a field, the gift of your emotional support or creative talent. It's not that she doesn't "love you for yourself," it's just that a very primitive part of her responds to a gift as an erotic act.

8. THOU SHALT EXUDE CONFIDENCE AND VULNERABILITY

Your confidence makes her feel secure and excited at the same time. Your vulnerability makes you warmer and cuddlier, accessible, lovable. If you can combine confidence with vulnerability, you're probably the kind of person who can talk about your feelings. Good for you! Most modern ladies love that. The strong silent type is a sex symbol of the past, and a good thing too, for he was often a secret psychopath.

9. THOU SHALT HAVE FOREPLAY

Foreplay is playful. Tease your lady's personal pleasures points wherever you find them. Be patient. Learn to lick, lap, and love it! Remember the key to female sexual pleasure: Lubrication, lubrication, lubrication.

10. THOU SHALT FIND OUT WHAT HER DREAMS ARE MADE OF

...and help her to realize them, even if that just means talking to her about them... Help her to explore, understand, and actualize her dreams, her hopes, her ambitions, her fantasies.

***These are abbreviated versions of Dr. Block's new book The 10 Commandments of Pleasure (St. Martin's Press).

The 10 Commandments of Pleasure : Erotic Keys to a Healthy Sexual Life by Susan Block


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